The day I heard my dad had cancer was the same day I completed my final presentation of my 3 year Textile Technology diploma. I remember coming out of the presentation feeling relieved and grateful that the journey was over and I was able to get back to a semi-normal life without working and studying 18hrs a day. I knew my dad was expecting his test results but after 2 years of a negative cancer result I wasn’t too worried. When I was told that it was cancer and the 2 years of back and forward doctor visits were just a delay in treatment I felt angry, then relieved we had a proper diagnosis and then just assumed any treatment would work. My dad was my superhero. Nothing could happen to him. Read the rest of this entry
Saturday mornings are the perfect time to check out some new spots in Durban. Especially this time of year when the sun is starting to rise earlier and the city seems to be anticipating summers arrival. Waking up early is not a strong point of mine, so when I get an invitation to early breakfast there generally has to be a good incentive…e.g. I don’t have any Nespresso capsules left or the milk is sour. Read the rest of this entry
I you know me well you will know that I’m a grand master level procrastinator. The definition of Procrastinate means to delay or put off something that should be done until the opportunity is lost. I tend however to procrastinate when it’s something I don’t like doing or something I know I can’t do well. I procrastinate because I can’t do it perfectly and then get overwhelmed the larger the problem becomes…I try and overcome this by planning my day to do at least one thing on my list of things to do, but you know how it is…meetings, customer complaints, fires that need putting out, last-minute trips to Johannesburg. These all conspire against my to-do list and the list grows longer and longer.
I have an audit it 4 weeks and my list now looks insurmountable. I realised that there are certain things that continuously distract me from said list and I’m writing them down so that I can recognise them and try to stop myself from doing them and focus on my to-do list! Read the rest of this entry
Life is full of challenges, big ones, little ones, annoying pull-your-hair-out ones and general daily struggles.
One of the challenges to owning your own property are the little things that need to be done around the house. Cleaning the bathroom drain of that clumpy hair (you girls know what I mean!), changing light bulbs, rewiring plugs, tidying up electronic cords, putting up pictures, painting walls, hanging up curtains and blinds, installing cat flaps, fixing leaking taps and washing machine drains that overflow. The list is endless. All these little electrical, plumbing, handyman jobs that generally we as girls know nothing about. Like changing car tyres…hmmm. Read the rest of this entry
This weekend to escape the noisy neighbours and kids as well as the obnoxious neighbour flying his drone over my apartment without permission, I dragged a friend along to Café Jiran to have a cup of coffee.
Café Jiran is one of the best places to get coffee in Durban. Wonderful views and service and it’s the perfect place to people watch as it’s next door to a hotel with lots of people from all different walks of life walking in and out. Read the rest of this entry
Argue if you want to, but the 80’s were the best years for the teen movie. John Hughes was a legend. Writing, directing, producing some of the most iconic 80’s Movies. It’s no wonder that there are so many of his on my Top 10 80’s Movies List Read the rest of this entry
I don’t know if there’s a perfect bucket list. I have some things on mine and some I’ve already done but in order to not forget the dreams or lose track of the goals and accomplishments I thought I’d pen my list. Would be wonderful to use an old fountain pen and a perfect piece of paper for this list, but a keyboard and blog will have to do. Read the rest of this entry
Tomorrow (22nd September) will be the 4th Anniversary of my dad’s death. I’m sitting here trying to avoid writing this one because some days it’s still too raw. I don’t want to revisit this place of anger. For too long it was the most overwhelming of all emotions. At first when in denial (which you can read more about here) you don’t want to acknowledge the anger. It’s like this silent scream inside building up with nowhere to go. It still creeps up on me every now and then as these stages are emotions and they don’t happen in a linear way. They come and go and bleed into each other. Read the rest of this entry
“You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to.” Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler
It seems so simple…
Denial; Anger; Bargaining; Depression; Acceptance. Five little words that are supposed to sum up the experience of grief. Read the rest of this entry